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Suicide grief: Healing after a loved one’s suicide
A loved one's suicide can be emotionally devastating. Use healthy coping strategies — such as seeking support — to begin the journey to healing and acceptance. By Mayo Clinic Staff When a loved one dies by suicide, overwhelming emotions can leave you reeling. Your...
Suicide is a death like no other
Grief is a universal experience all human beings encounter. Though death inevitably touches our lives, research shows that many people grieve in varying and different ways. From the textures of emotions, to length of time in mourning, to even the kinds of rituals and...
Suicide survivors face grief, questions, challenges
The recent, untimely deaths of Kate Spade, reportedly from depression-related suicide, and of Anthony Bourdain, also from apparent suicide, came as a surprise to many. How could a fashion designer and businesswoman known for her whimsical creations and a chef, author...
Coping after suicide loss
Tips for grieving adults, children and schools Death by suicide is always a tragic event. It can trigger a host of complicated and confusing emotions. Whether you are coping with the loss of a loved one, or are helping a child or...
SUICIDE AND LANGUAGE – Why we shouldn’t use the ‘C’ word
By Susan Beaton MAPS, beyondblue Suicide Prevention Advisor, Dr Peter Forster MAPS, University of Worcester and Dr Myfanwy Maple MAASW, University of New England
Suicide is not a sin and is no longer a crime, so we should stop saying that people ‘commit’ suicide. We now live in a time when we seek to understand people who experience suicidal ideation, behaviours and attempts, and to treat them with compassion rather than condemn them. Part of this is to use appropriate, non-stigmatising terminology when referring to suicide.
Article on Hope
Postvention is ultimately about hope and about re-establishing hope in a person, a community or workplace that has been devastated by a suicide
Questions we ask ourselves
Those who have been bereaved by suicide are often haunted by two questions:
– Why did they do it?
– Could I have done something to prevent it?
A Beginning
One day you wake up and realise that you must have survived it because you are still here, alive and breathing. But you don’t remember the infinitely small steps and decisions you took to get there. Your only awareness is that you have shed miles of tears on what...
Friends Can Help (Written primarily for the friend)
Often, immediately following a suicide death, friends rally around and show support. But over time they may appear to be less concerned and their contact may become less frequent. Remember the following: Generally, friends are well meaning and they want to support and...
SUICIDE BEREAVEMENT 101
Survivors often wonder how bereavement after suicide compares to bereavement after other kinds of death. Special themes of suicide bereavement manifest themselves in three broad areas of grief response. First, numerous studies have found that survivors seem to...
THE ELEPHANT
When a loved one suicides, it's like they left us standing alone in a room with a very large elephant. We've never owned an elephant before. We have no use for it, nor do we want it. But here we are...stuck in a room with this elephant. We have no idea what to do with...
A WASTED LIFE? Creating purpose – turning loss into gain
Many people feel their loved one’s life has been wasted. But: A person’s value does not die with them. Their influences and memories remain. Remember the times you had together. Get out the photos to remind you. Sometimes the memories become hidden by the pain you...